Dr. Stephen Kaufman
Emotional Loss, Grief, and Trauma: A Real Cure for Rapid Recovery
Broken Heart Surgery and Grief Relief
Geri was a 30 year old woman who had been a passenger in a serious car accident one year before I treated her. She had suffered multiple injuries, and the driver of the car had died. She still had severe nightmares several times a week, constant anxiety and a morbid fear of driving. She stated that she thought about the accident almost continuously. At the end of her first treatment, she experienced a sense of peace, and freedom from the constant anxiety and emotional pain she had had. After two more visits, she was completely free from nightmares, she drove without fear, and no longer thought about the accident constantly.
Roberta had been attacked and molested in an underground parking garage. Several months later she obsessed about the assault continuously. She had a deep fear of being alone, and almost constant anxiety. After two treatments, all of her symptoms completely resolved, and didn't return.
Mary's father died one year before I treated her at a public lecture. She would still break into tears whenever she started to speak about it, and thought about her loss constantly. She had not been able to sleep well and had frequent bad dreams. I treated her at the lecture without her even telling me what her loss was. She experienced immediate relief and stopped crying. I heard several weeks later that she was now sleeping normally and thinking about her loss only occasionally. Her depression had completely lifted.
Marsha had broken up with her boy friend three years earlier. She had been depressed ever since, and still thought about him much of the day, although she had not seen him since the break up. She had not dated anyone since. I treated her three times. After the second treatment she felt as though her pain had stopped. By the end of treatment she no longer thought about him very often. She was no longer grieving or depressed. Within a couple of months she began dating someone new. (I left her with a silver bullet and rode out of town on my great white steed..."Hi Yo, Silver!!! Our job here is done, Tonto!")
No, just kidding about that last part, but the rest of the stories are completely true and very typical of our results with grief. I have found by surveying many lecture audiences and patients that approximately 40% of us are walking around with unresolved grief. I define unresolved grief or emotional trauma as "a traumatic event that happened to you more than 6 months ago that you still think about almost daily, and feel a lot of emotional pain about." Obviously some losses are harder to recover from than others. Some people may feel at peace with a divorce as soon as it is over, while others may still be in pain five years later. No one can pass judgment on another person's pain, or say "you shouldn't be feeling that." However, most people are suffering from unresolved grief much longer than is necessary. It is programmed into our brains to recover from loss and trauma eventually. We all lose many friends and family as we go through life. Sometimes we just can't get it back together for a long time. There is help here!
We have developed a technique (based on Applied Kinesiology and Thought Field Therapy) which can rapidly help the brain to recover from old trauma (more than several months old). We do this by stimulating a part of the brain in special ways while the patient thinks about the trauma ( in most cases they are thinking about the trauma most of the time anyway.) About 80-90% of patients will have a tremendous decrease in emotional pain connected with the loss, within 3 or 4 treatments! The results are usually permanent within 4 or 5 treatments! I have been doing this treatment for almost 20 years, on more than a thousand patients. It is almost always effective. We have many testimonials on or website from cured patients.
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June 22, 2000
By my nature, I am a skeptical man. I read most testimonials with a wary eye. Yet I feel compelled to write this one to you – the reader. In June of 2002 I attended a lecture given by Dr. Stephen Kaufman. the talk demonstrated his techniques in treating effects of post traumatic stress. Several people volunteered to undergo a simple series of questions, tests, and adjustments. The problems presented ranged from a fear of going to the dentist to deep-seated childhood memories. Within a few minutes, to my surprise, each volunteer expressed emotional relief from their concerns. I was impressed. I was also doubtful that Dr. Kaufman’s technique could help me.
Life is full of suffering for all of us. There is an ancient Buddhist story that illustrates this well.
The Buddha was sitting under a tree one evening, giving a discourse to his disciples. As the twilight deepened, a young woman approached the group, her eyes red with tears. The Buddha looked up at her and smiled gently, for he knew what was in her heart.
"Yes, what is it?", he asked.
"It is said that you can work miracles. My husband has died." She cried. "I am very young, and I have three children. It is unfair for him to leave me. Please , please, won't you bring him back to me?"
The Buddha said " I will certainly bring him back for you. But you must first go to the village and find a house where the people have not suffered as much as you. When you find such a house, I will bring your husband back."
The woman staunchly knocked on every door in the village. In every house, Death had come at one time or another, leaving suffering and loss.
At last she realized that suffering comes to everyone as part of life.
Grief visits all of us , not just in the form of death, but separations, divorce, break-ups, and even relocation, job loss, loss of our health or some part of our body, etc. No one is left untouched. It can be hard to maintain happiness over the course of losses in our lives. Sometimes we suffer from a loss for much longer than seems reasonable. In these cases, treatment is now available which can usually help.